Yes, you read it correctly, there are two sides of the ego. If you are like me I bet you thought there was only one part of each person called “the ego” and that is true. However, there are many sides of “the ego” (or rather “the she-go” for us women). So here I am, addressing, identifying and distinguishing two sides of the ego in such a way that empowers us.
The intention of this blog article is so that we may begin to address, manage, and develop a relationship with our ego and to look at and acknowledge ALL sides of our Self, including two sides of our ego aka she-go, in such a way that allows us to create a partnership with our egos, allowing us to love life automatically. Yes, I just said, automatically. ~Just Imagine a world without sorrow… oh wait someone already wrote that song… Thanks, John, Paul, George and Ringo… and thanks for reminding me all I need is LOVE.
Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, your answers live inside you and they do NOT come from your positive or negative view of life! Instead we often answer with our “ego”. On a good note though your answers will come from your Self.
Have you ever noticed how people tend to judge mostly everything in life as negative or positive?
For example, if you are on a soccer team and your team wins, that’s positive. If your team loses, that’s negative. If the weather is SUNNY, that’s positive. If the weather is rainy, that’s negative. (As Dolly says “If you want to see the Rainbow, you are going to have to have rain”
We judge things as negative as individuals, but there is also unwritten, unspoken agreements making entire societies view certain things as negative or positive. In other words some might judge things as negative and unwanted, while at the same time I might think it is positive and a great idea.
What does that mean? It doesn’t mean anything. It just means opinions are like noses everyone has one, but some are bigger than others.
However, given that this is how most humans function, I would assert that most people are not expressing their True Self, they are expressing either the positive or negative view of their egos most of the time, i.e. 90% or more. And this happens individually, culturally, nationally, and internationally, across the Universe to all humans.
You are probably well-acquainted with the term ‘egotistical’ meaning ‘a selfish, self-centered person’ and most of us feel that being egotistical is negative, right? Well, I would assert that we are all expressing our egos more often then our Selves. It’s not bad that we are or that we are not. Haha, and see I just make it more and more confusing right?
If you view a person as a ‘good‘ person, the positive side of your ego is in play. If a person is a ‘bad‘ person in your view, the negative side of your ego is in play. If you have a ‘bad‘ day, your negative ego has run the show. If you have a ‘good‘ day, your positive ego has run the show that day.
So, what if we take away our egos, remove our judgments, both negative and positive?
Woah.. imagine a world without Judgement.. What if we could go a day without judging others, without being judged??? Would we even know how to breathe in that world?
What happens? What we’re left with is our Self. And who we are without our egos is simple, alive, empowered and it is absolutely beautiful! To to be honest, if all you’re left with is your Self, there’s not much there. If and when your true Self is discovered, most people get a sense of peace and calm, you might even call it nothingness. Now be careful, this would be an opportune time for your ‘negative ego’ to jump in and tell you “nothingness is a bad thing.” Or, your ‘positive ego’ might think nothingness is a good thing, a relief . Either way, it’s just your ego talking, not you. You are your Self. No matter what, if there is what I call ‘a charge’ there, either positive or negative, it is your ego at play.
So sign me up for a shot of reality!
I think most of my life has been spent searching for “something”… I don’t think I ever realized that until lately. It seems I was searching for love, not only to be loved but to be able to give love freely.
If we are patient and with time, we might find our Self in there hiding, almost like the Wizard of Oz behind the curtain that is your ego. Once you find your Self, have a conversation with that side of you, your Self.
Find out what’s really going on and perhaps even ask your Self some questions, perhaps those questions you’ve been looking outside yourself for… I promise the answers you get from your Self are YOUR answers. The answers you get from your ego are positive or negative and often relate to society’s answers.
Still not sure about this exercise? Consider some of the great leaders like Dolly Parton, Maya Angelou, Martin Luther King Jr., Ghandi or The Dalai Lama… I promise they listened to their Self who told them to stand for what they believed.
The part you don’t know is that their egos were probably telling them to give up and all along they kept listening to their Selves and kept choosing to take a stand against all odds. I imagine not just their ego’s told them that, probably a bunch of “egotistical” “friends, relatives, others” were enforcing that as well.
What is your Self telling you to take a stand for? Who are you for others? A popular term for this answer is called ‘finding your purpose‘… In the past year, I have found myself surrounded with some wonderful people. I have made friends on FB with people I have never even met in real life, and I am have met many new friends in real life as well. In the last year I have been asked over and over “what is my life purpose”?? WHO AM I???
The answer is inside ME if I listen to MY SELF .. I might be surprised.Plus I might also be surprised if I give my SELF a chance to see what I can DO..
So, on that note, I’d like to say… Enjoy your exploration of who you are and your purpose and by the way, don’t worry about your ego, she’ll still be there for you when you’re done talking with your Self!
So where did I get the inspiration for this post?? You can thank BETH SHELDON BADORE aka Melting Mama…. She posted this on her page yesterday..
“Ego: The fallacy whereby a goose thinks he’s a swan”
I laughed so hard that I spewed my protein drink all over my computer screen… but sadly enough the other side is “Ego: The fallacy wereby a swan thinks she’s a goose” HONK HONK..
Lots of love wrapped up in virtual hugs,