“There comes a time in your life when you realize who will always matter, who does matter, and who never did. So don’t worry about people from your past; there’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.” –anonymous
Over the past couple of months I have had many, many, MANY PM messages asking me if I will be at the BE event in September. I have been answering them one by one. This entry will serve as a blanket statement for my NOT attending the BE Event in September.
First of all I really do not wish to go into “details” of the parting of ways between SM, BE and I. Many of you know SM and I were not just employeer/employee we were also at one point very close friends, I even referred to her as my “sister”. We spent a lot of time together traveling, shopping, and just hanging out. So I did not just resign a position of employment the day I turned in my resignation, I also walked away from a 5 year friendship.
I had to ask myself.. can I really feel good about myself and my life if I stay. Am I willing to jeopardize my integrity?
It’s very personal.
When I try to think of words to write, the statement above came to mind.
The well, and healthy thing to do when you are in a relationship or job that is no longer in alignment with your own integrity and core values is to walk away from it. This is a lesson I learned from staying so long in an unhealthy relationship.
It was a struggle for me to make the decision to walk away because in reality.. SM had provided her friendship and support during my divorce. In turn I supported her in many situations both as an employee and as a friend. However, SM did not “rescue” me from an abusive marriage, I made the choice to leave. SM was a facilitator in giving support and also hiring me into a full time position. BELIEVE me, I worked in the position. Keep in mind when I moved to South Florida, my family, loaned me enough money to move here. To afford rent, moving, ect. I had worked as a nurse for over 17 years, and I had also worked in a marketing position as a patient liaison. I had also completed all but one class to finish my requirements for a Bachelors Degree in Science. The job was not “given” to me out of “charity”, I was qualified for the position.
Several people have told me, it has been said to some members of the BE Board that—- I left the message board because it got to be too much for me answering all the questions ect from the members. That is simply not true. When I left BE I had no intention of leaving the Before and After support board. MY password of 5 years was changed and I can not log into the board, no I did not forget it, and no its not my computer that is on fritz. I questioned SM about the situation and she made the decision that since I work for a bariatric vitamin company, she can not “allow” me to be a member of the board. So although some of you are being told I am too busy for you, that is not the case.
It was also brought to my attention this was posted on SM’s personal FB page.
Susan Nunziato Leach Having ipod iphone difficulties. My older itouch has playlist files no longer on my itunes, so it keeps wanting to resync by REPLACING everything… noooooo. It appears that someone has inadvertently purchased the ENTIRE Dolly Parton song list on my itunes account – but it’s okay, I know where she lives… lol. T is probably wondering where all those songs are!
This implies that I went in on someone elses account and purchased something without permission. This itunes set was a gift from SM last year for my Birthday. How quickly one forgets.
This is posted on her page today.
Susan Nunziato Leach
Susan Nunziato Leach They SAY that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery but I think it means that some folks just dont have anything of their own to offer the world. I guess us sparkly folks with great ideas just have to keep coming up with new things.
about an hour ago
I am flattered…. As for the BE event.. Fin is my bead Guru and and has been since I decided to start beading again a couple years ago. I started seriously beading when I was around 12(but I am part Cherokee Indian, we are born beading and creating jewelry) but stopped a few years back because of my “schedule”, Fin was fantastic in teaching new techniques for me. Of course, I could not wait to invite SM to meet Fin. Yes, Patricia was my belly dancing instructor and for a year I was her student. She is amazing as well as Luna whose show I have watched in support of her and in support of the ART of Belly Dance. As soon as I started belly dance… I could not wait to invite SM.. she declined because of her own personal reasons.. Yes, you have heard me talk about Kundalini yoga before… thank you for remembering. Also chef Andy and his wife are lovely people, I have spent many evenings talking with them as Helen and I ate at Le Bistro. Thank you Helen for introducing me to them.
These are all wonderful teachers, and I would and DID recommend each and everyone of them. 😉
It is flattering that this event contains many of my core activities and yes I would love to see my friends from the message board. Yes the event is just minutes from my apartment, and I do love going to bariatric social events…However, my integrity and my core values remain intact.
I AM standing in MY own shoes walking MY path… in dignity and grace. Holding my head high. For these things I thank God!
The hardest job I ever had was trying to BE what someone else wanted me to BE!
Thank you but no I will NOT BE at the event…,
So, those of you who have “read” or “heard” about me.. and what I did or did not do. Remember there is a “rest of the story”