Somehow it is hard for me to believe, I am 40 years old and up until today I have had a total of 2 facials and 2 massages in my entire lifetime. As a matter of fact, I never had one until I moved to Florida 4 years ago. I suppose I have to ask myself for what reason I never have gotten massages.
I suppose weighing 385 pounds caused a huge disconnect in my desire to get naked and walk around a spa room for a day. You know it’s hard to think about that especially when it “Seems” like everyone else is skinny, or at least a normal weight. It was hard enough for me to walk, much less walk around and try to fit in at the SPA.
Because I knew my 385 pound body was not going to fit in spa robes, I pretty much marked that activity off.
Do you avoid the spa? If so what is your reasoning? Have you ever thought of or imagine getting a massage?
I am going to be honest here, I had sexuality issues also that kept me out of spa’s even after my weight loss. I had an idea in my mind that massages had some kind of sexual overtone. WHY? I have no idea, maybe because of how and were I was raised.
My friend Jill recently celebrated her birthday and her husband gave her a gift of a massage and a facial… GREAT GIFT RIGHT? Well all I can say is the man gets Kudo’s on thoughtfulness as he figured she would have more fun at the spa with a friend, so for her birthday he not only got a spa day for HER, but for a friend to go with her…
SO, off to the spa my friend Jill and I go….
We started the day with a brunch omelet at TooJays… It’s funny too post ops that eat until we are full and still have 2 plates FULL.. but that is okay life is good. I am 7 years post op and my friend Jill is 7 months post op… Seven is a lucky number… right?
Then off to the spa… Oh boy I was more than excited to ditch the clothes and don the robe… X-cuse me when did this change? What happened to the shy modest girl who was scared of the spa, the robe, the massage?? Oh, yeah she lost over 200 pounds and decided to enjoy and live life…
Jill was off to the facial room…
My massage was by Bianca… Bless Dale’s heart, he was being a nice wonderful guy and signed us up for the MOST EXPENSIVE PACKAGE… but the reality of that was a deep tissue massage. Keep in mind this is my third massage in my life.. so by time Bianca got to my shoulders I was thinking thats TOO deep… and by time she reached my mid back and said BREATHE so I can release these knots… I was crying. I realized it was more than I could handle at this phase and asked her to stop.. not stop the massage just don’t go so DEEP in the tissues and let those knots dissolve on their own… now I can breathe again….
Afterward Jill and I met in the lounge for tea and cookies then off to switch…
My turn for a facial with Marisol… oh the beauty in a facial. I could lay with someone rubbing my face for days. Honestly, I don’t even mind the extractions, for as Marisol stated it is merely cleaning one up.. Marisol is truely working her life’s passion. She told me about how she chased her brothers and sisters down growing up to clean up their faces with extractions and by doing facials… WHY DID I NOT HAVE SIBLINGS LIKE THIS… ANTHONY come on now…
She told me how she gets such pleasure from opening the pores and extracting the build up of wax ect to allow the skin to breathe free and the air to flow.. She made blackhead extractions sound so beautiful.. and I did not even feel it as she inserted the blade into my face and freed a monster. She explained to me that this wax build up was HUGE, and proceded to show me… (I think she was proud of her work) I decided I should have facials more often so this candle removal from my chin and forehead is not such a big deal.. (GOOD GRIEF DID YOU SEE THE SIZE OF THAT?)
My friend Jill and I have made the decision to celebrate more often.. maybe reflexology of the feet for Halloween, ya know? Why not treat ourselves to some pampering??
So tell me, what would you think if your husband got a SPA day for you and a friend would you love that gift or would you rather have a gift JUST for you? What are your thoughts? I shared this idea with a couple of my friends who are male. One said he would have NEVER thought of this, ONE said he does this all the time.. Tell me what you think….
Guys.. if you marry me, this is something I would LOVE… I loved spending the day with my friend in celebration of her birthday… and I suppose I may need to get a husband before July 24th to send she and I back to the spa for my Birthday… come on now LOL.
Seriously… this was a great day.. and I feel blessed to have such a wonderful friend… it doesn’t matter if we are at the spa, cooking in the kitchen with love, sitting by the pool, or at the park feeding ducks everyday is a good day with great friends….