My grandfather was a beekeeper, the boxes sat up on the hill and I was always fascinated with the process of “honey”. My love of honey spilled over into my adult life and even to this day I will search for hours to find a pint of honey in a Ball Jar with the honey comb intact. Most of my life I have searched for “the honey comb” and of course, its a metaphor or a symbol for “the divine life”.
Of course my love of honey and my quest of searching for “the sweet life” in all the wrong places are what led me down the road of obesity! Seriously, I have no one to blame for my poor dietary habits except myself. I was the one shoving Big Macs and fries with a diet coke for lunch everyday. It is very hard to look at one’s self and say ” I was failing to provide myself a balance diet, and I was failing to maintain a healthy weight.”
Let’s face it though I was not succeeding at those things. I don’t think anyone wants to be considered a success at being obese and unheathy. So, tell me what is the positive I could gain from this situation? There IS always a positive if we are willing to look! We may have to face our own negative side to find it though and THAT can be scary!
Last year about this time I attended a workshop of lectures called “The Art”. Each week a new subject was presented “The Art of Seeing”, “The Art of Knowing” ect. ect. What I learned in these lectures was priceless.
I learned that the life I was living was the life I had created for myself. At any given moment. So when I was eating Big Macs and weighing 385 pounds, that was something I created by the choices I made. Last year, when I attended these lectures I was at a healthy weight and making very wise eating choices, but I was not happy with the fact I was working 6 days a week and many evenings. There was no balance between work and “play”. Again it was a life I had created by my choices. But, this workshop really gave me an opportunity to sit back and review my life. To see it through fresh eyes.
During these lectures I realized I had surrounded myself many times in life by negativity and negative people. Of course it was never my intention to be negative. Have you ever tried to please a negative person? It is impossible to bring light and positivity to someone who “likes being negative and in the dark”. Trying to FORCE a negative person to be positive is like trying to carry an elephant on your back. Your not only setting yourself up for failure, you are going to get squashed!
This day and time there is a lot of focus placed on positivity, intention, manifesting your desires ect…. On every book shelf it seems you will find a books like You Can Heal Your Life, The Power of Intention, and The Secret. Holistic Authors and Doctors of Integrated Medicine are popping up on many bookshelves across the world.
Personally, I love the outlook of Authors like Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson, and Wayne Dyer. They look at life, illness and even topics such as weight loss from a holistic approach. What does holistic mean? It means you look at the person, client, or patient as a whole person. Not just a physical component. So you are taking into consideration not only the physical aspect of the person but also the emotional and spiritual health.
Maybe you attended a support group where I was speaking and heard me say, I call myself the Holistic Bariatric Person. It’s because I realized after I had taken the step to alter the natural state of my body and intestines by having bariatric surgery, that this was only ONE component of my obesity. There was also emotional and spiritual health that was driving me to eat and have food addictions.
If we could only see ourselves the way God see’s us, we could realize our true beauty and potential. He doesn’t see the mistakes we have made along the way, or the extra bite of cheesecake we ate last night, he doesn’t even see that we made a horrible choice by marrying that fool we married. (Note I am NOT talking about YOU here, I am speaking of myself)He looks into our eyes and into our soul. He see’s the beauty within, not the fear and anger that is brewing from us.
Can you go to the mirror and look into your eyes and look past the physical being? Can you say to yourself that you are beautiful and tell yourself that you love you? God see’s us as a whole person and treats us so. So when we hurt on the emotional, spiritual or physical level he loves the ENTIRE BEING that we are… Can you love that way?
I borrowed my friend Jill’s bike day before yesterday and didn’t realize the brakes are on the handlebars. I was cruising along at 9 MPH when I came upon a stop sign. I put my right foot back to hit the brake and realized the brakes were on the handles. I cringed a little but quickly grabbed for the hand brake and stopped “SUDDENLY”
My first thought was to call myself a “Big Dummy” but my innerself said.. “Be thankful you didn’t wreck, be thankful you remembered where the brakes are and be thankful you can still pedal at 9MPH”
It brought a smile to my face and joy to my heart. I LOVE being healthy and well!
When you learn to take the lessons from failures, and use them for good, failure becomes and art. This is an art that will starve out the negativity… and you will bask in success!