“Keep Your heart above your head and your eyes wide open. So this world can’t find a way to leave you cold. And know your not the only SHIP out in the OCEAN! Save your strength for the things that you can change. FORGIVE the ones you can’t. You gotta let it GO”
Have you ever gone to the circus where saw trapeze artists do amazing things. I used to watch and think “I wish I could do that.” They always seemed so graceful and so self assure. They know they will grab the bar that is coming at them. They seem to be fearless and I wonder if the thought of falling ever crosses their mind?
There is always a time trapeze artists are between trapezes. They must let go of one trapeze so they can grab onto another. This is the only way they can be successful. If they are not successful they fall. I have been asking myself lately, how do I let go of what I am holding onto? The curiosity inside leads me to ask what it is that convinces me to hold on.
Can I let go of one trapeze to grab onto another? Or, will fear keep me from letting go? It’s a long way down. Am I sure I can reach the new bar?
Of course I want to let go. How else will I discover what I am really supposed to be doing? Yet, the false sense of security sways me to hang on. There is a battle that rages inside me, a battle of good and evil. Positive and negative if you will. The positive side cheers out loudly let go and FLY… The negative side screams stay in hell where you know the names of the streets.
But, will I let go? This metaphor of the trapeze aptly applies in life, as I approach the bar that is coming to me I realize I have to let go of the old ideas and things that no longer help me to learn and grow so that I can reach for my destiny.
Do you find that you aren’t letting go, after all. Most of us find this to be very difficult, if not a completely out of this world idea.
What if I let go of the trapeze and could not catch the next one? I would fall. Since I am a real human being that is not in the circus, there is no safety net. And that is enough to convince me into letting go, so that I soar to the next trapeze bar. Because, If I chose to hang onto the old one, letting fear rob me of the opportunity to fly to new rewards and new adventures, it would be paralyzing. Because In the process of hanging on, I may stop moving and fall anyway. And many people do.
I have often looked back at some of my past experiences like my marriage and wondered why I held on for so long. Why I didnt just leave. I often wonder this about myself about different ideas that I have as well. Why do I keep holding on? What does it mean to let go and let god?
Sadly enough I believed I was right and my husband was wrong. . Being right in this way sort of feels good at first. But, it keeps you hanging onto the trapeze of what others are doing wrong rather than allowing you to reach for the trapeze of what you are doing right. If I could have Listened to myself talk. Was it about “them” or about me?
Somehow at times, when I allowed the stinkin’ thinkin’ in my head and allowed myself to hang ot with the negative thoughts in my head…I became “THAT” person that could suck all the energy from the room. No one wants to be in the room with “that” person becase their sadness is real and it is very contagious. Let me add, no one wants to be that person either. Just think when I am sad like that, I want to escape mysellf also, but every place I go, I am there. So, I discovered my best plan of defense was to work on the sadness and removing all negative thoughts from my mind. I didn’t even realize I was doing it, because I was too hurt, too sad and too lonely to recognize my own negativity.
I read a quote today…
“We judge others by their actions, we judge ourselves by our intentions.” Ian Percy
If you are mulling over what other people did, you are hanging onto the old trapeze. I was Playing the “somebody done me wrong” song and it simply was not going to allow me to create an environment for success. I had to move on. The same cure applies if self-doubts make you put a death grip on the old trapeze so that you cannot be the person you are capable of being.
My friend Michelle brought up a good point also, one that my therapist often said to me when I would get aggravated with myself for hanging on so long. She said people move when they are ready to move and you had to wait until you were ready to grow. My therapist often used a reference about someone being sound asleep in the dark and if you turn on a bright light suddenly it will startle them and they might not be able to handle the sudden light. Where as if we slowly bring in the light and wake the person it wont be so overwhelming. That all makes sense her too.
Let go of the old, and embrace the new. When I look at it now I can recognize that I had to make moves anyhow, no matter which trapeze I hung onto. It was hard to make that move to let go of the trapeze Once I allowed myself to be between trapezes, I was able to use the new trapeze to reach new highs of success. The idea is to keep moving through life… to learn to grow and to be.