If you’re tired of feeling “unworthy” “less than”, afraid of making and achieving your desires and goals, feel that no matter what you do it is never “good enough”, then your self esteem could do with a boost!
Having low self esteem takes an enormous toll on the quality of your life. You take fewer risks, which limits your opportunities, both personally and professionally. You are reluctant to voice or acknowledge your needs. You are probably also haunted by past mistakes and making future ones.
It doesn’t have to be like this, the tools you’ve used to (unconsciously) lower your self esteem are the same ones you use to raise it. Let’s look at how we can use ten tips on improving your self esteem and improve the quality of life!
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. If you play this game, you’re likely to compare yourself in a negative way and set yourself up for continuing to have low self esteem. Why continue to play a game where you’ve set the rules against yourself, so that you’re less likely to win! Praise others in their achievements and also praise yourself in yours.
2. Don’t keep putting yourself down! You can’t develop high self esteem if you constantly repeat negative comments about your skills and abilities. Other people will pick up on it and take on board the negative way you view yourself. How are they likely to treat you? Also don’t beat yourself up over “mistakes” that you’ve made – learn how to reframe them so that they work for you. It’s easy to let the negative bug creep in, so stay focused and as soon as negativity starts knocking, shut it down.
3. Using affirmations is an excellent way to raise your self esteem. It’s the opposite of no 1. If you can program your mind to repeat negative phrases about yourself (and see how effective that’s been!), then you can certainly get into the habit of continually thinking (and saying to yourself) positive statements about you. When you do, allow yourself to experience the positive feelings about your statements. Also use inspirational quotes to assist you.If you don’t know any, there are many sources on line and there are also many positive affirmation card sets.
4. Accept all compliments graciously. Don’t dismiss or ignore them. When you do you give yourself the message that you do not deserve or are not worthy of praise, which reflects low self esteem. It also means that others will become more reluctant to praise or acknowledge your abilities, if you don’t. Take the compliment in and feel the words, and accept them, smile and say thank you from a truly grateful heart.
5. Take advantage of and use life coaching program, workshops, and develop a more positive attitude. Whatever material you see, read acts as subliminal learning, which means that it will plant itself in your mind and dominate your behaviour. Talk about food for thought – what diet is your mind on? Is it a nourishing one? Nourish not only your body with healthy food, but also your mind and spirit!
6. Mix with positive and supportive people. Who you associate with influences your thoughts, actions and behavior – another form of subliminal learning. Negative people can put you and your ideas down and it lowers your self esteem. On the other hand, when you are surrounded by supportive people, you feel better about yourself, which helps you in improving self esteem. Learn how to develop your positive personal support network.There is also that thing of balance. Walk in balance so the positive and negative flow properly leaving no room for extreme dreaming and fantasy, and no room for negative toxicity.
7. Acknowledge your positive qualities and skills. Too many people with low self esteem constantly put themselves down (back to no 1 again!) and don’t appreciate their many positive attributes. Learn how to truly affirm and value your many excellent qualities. If you find this difficult, ask others to tell you. They’ll come up with things you would never have imagined! If I asked you to tell me what YOU find as my positive qualities I might be surprised in what you say. One of my friends said it best when she said she wish people could see themselves as God see’s them. Imagine that!
8. Stop putting up with stuff! Not voicing or acknowledging your needs means that you are probably tolerating more than you should. Find out what you’re putting up with and zap those tolerations. By doing so, you’re giving yourself the message that you’re worth it.
9. Make positive contributions to others. This doesn’t mean that you constantly do for others what they could be doing for themselves. But when you do make a positive contribution to others, you begin to feel more valuable, which increases your sense of your own value and raises your self esteem. Volunteer somewhere that has meaning for you. Volunteer work makes a huge difference in how you view things, yourself included.
10. Involve yourself in work and activities that you love. So many people with low self esteem stop doing those activities that they most enjoy. Even if you’re not in a position to to make immediate changes in your career, you can still devote some of your leisure time to enjoyable hobbies and activities. Remember when you do what you love, its not work.
Start taking action! The universe rewards action. Backing away and avoiding challenges means that your self esteem muscles become weak and flabby. When you start to take action -regardless of the outcome – you will start to feel better about yourself, develop your self confidence and you will start on the road to improving self esteem.
One more thing exercise is a great thing to get your heart rate up, and get your blood pumping. It gets the energy moving in a positive direction..