Regardless of what success means to you, you can attain it faster by building others up instead of bringing them down. Success is sweeter when you help someone else up. It is all too easy to criticize others to “show them how things are supposed to be”. But instead of criticizing others, why not try and see the good in them and play it up?
One of the main reasons for starting Teresa Journeys Home is for me to learn ways of aligning my career and activities and life with the spirit of giving. I want to use my God given talents, life experiences, successes and failures to inspire you to be the best that you can be. But first I will share with you a short poem written by one of my favorite authors and someone I look to as I find her to be a woman of Beauty and Power. Maya Angelo in my opinion she is a fearless writer.
And Still I Rise
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries.
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history’s shame
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
Bringing the gifts my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
© Maya Angelou, 1978.
It is unfortunate that many people will laugh with you, dine with you and then talk nasty behind your back. You might have done that yourself from time to time. I have done it too, when I was at a different place in my life. The things we do can’t be changed but we can make a choice to change and make better choices now. If we are to rise above mediocrity, we must shun that kind of behavior. It is tempting to bring people down when we are threatened by them. It is easy to want to bring people down if we think they are rising up too fast and leaving us behind. When in reality, there is room for everyone at the top.. The top is “the heavens” right? And isn’t the “right” thing to do is rise WITH others? Rising above is NOT about jealousy and competition.
In West Virginia, we call it the The Crowned Princess Syndrome. Crowned Princess Syndrome is resentment of others’ success. It is something that we need to be aware of and shun as we seek success. If you are planning to be successful, you need to be aware that there are people who will try and bring you down. If you are trying to be successful, spare you energy and focus on what will make you successful instead of wasting time and energy resenting others.
Bringing people down through negative comments and thoughts only hinders your own success.The way to do this is by intentionally wanting, wishing and working for the success of others. When others succeed, instead of being jealous, you will be very happy and proud of yourself and OTHERS.
How can you succeed by building others up?
I could give an example that drug dealers also provide “value” to their customers. While it is true that drug dealers provide value in the short term, they ultimately destroy the lives of those same customers. You need to be able to decide how you are going to build others up through your efforts, and whether it is short term or long term. My approach is to focus on how to build others up in the long term.
For you to build others up, you have to WANT IT, visualize it and take action. If you are currently thinking of starting a career, you can choose a career that will have a lot of positive impact on others. For example, I was talking to a brilliant engineer friend who wants to use his engineering knowledge to build solar panels and other environmentally friendly solutions. Such an endeavor will help build not just the current generation up, but also future generations. It will benefit the entire creation for generations.
Succeeding by building others up is akin to planting good seeds. WE REAP WHAT WE SEW. If you do a good job for others it will come back to you. For example, if you work hard for your employer and help him achieve his objectives, he may be able to stay in business longer and maybe even give you a pay rise. Whatever your job is, you can do more to improve the fortune of your employer. Do not just do just enough to save your job, go beyond your call of duty to deliver exceptional value.
Building other’s up means that you are self confident about your situation and prospects in life. It means you are grateful for what you have and have a generous spirit to share. This is very important for your success. The more grateful you are, the more success you will attract in your life.
Can you succeed if you do not build others up?
Yes you can succeed by being selfish and by destroying other people. Drug dealers do succeed by destroying the long term lives of their customers but that kind of success is not sustainable. Sooner or later it catches up with them.
As Bob Marley used to sing “You can fool some people sometimes, and you can fool some people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time”. It is the same with success, you can succeed sometimes by bringing people down, but you cannot succeed all the time by bringing people down.
Does the drug dealer really ever succeed? His deeds are not done from love or from the heart, but rather for the love of money, greed and control. The drug dealer has no love or concern for those who he provides the “service”
What will you do to help others RISE? Will you extend a hand with your heart?