Do you ever go out to the mall, or the grocery store and see a seemingly lovely person? Without a Smile?
Today I was thinking back to my days of being married and living in WV. Going to the grocery store used so much energy when I was working a full time job, raising two small children and weighed over 350 pounds. It was hard getting out of bed in the mornings much less doing all I had to do. Often I would be out doing my errands and someone would nonchalantly say “Smile”.
Oh my goddess back then I was so angry, and believe me this was not the thing to say to get me to smile. I remember thinking at times WHAT do I HAVE TO SMILE ABOUT?
I viewed my life as something I was trying to survive, something I had to “get through”. There was no way to be “happy with a lot of things in my life, especially my marriage and my weight and health” Now, I can look through different eyes. I had two beautiful daughters and a family, my grandmother is still alive today and is healthy so back then she was amazing. I had so much that I could not see or appreciate because of the dark and negative I was surrounded in.
It’s funny when you are trying to “get through life” its hard to see alternatives. Hard to make wise choices and it is hard to SMILE.
I don’t look back at the old days with hate or regret or malice and judgement in any sort. I was doing the best I could do at the time. I thought, I could not survive or raise two kids without a husband and without his financial support. I believed it at the time. I definitely know better now, but can’t go back and change the fact that I stayed.
So where does that leave me? Do I swim out in a sea of regret? NO, Instead I like to look back and see things for what they were. I take responsibility for allowing myself to get in an abusive relationship. I have learned that someone will only abuse you to the degree that you abuse yourself… simply because one abuses themselves by allowing someone to abuse them.
These though are all lessons learned. You see life is like a giant classroom. The difference is in School we learn the lesson then we get the test.. IN LIFE we get the test and then we are left with finding the lesson from the test.
My life has certainly changed. My friends and my clients tell me I am funny. I had no idea.
My career makes me smile, I am a Licensed Massage Therapist. I bring relaxation and pain relief to my clients. I specialize in geriatric clients, bariatric clients, pregnancy massage, aromatherapy (raindrop technique), sports injuries, palliative care for those with pain associated with disease, children with autism, auto immune disorders and in life/bariatric coaching. It brings great joy to me when I see people on their healing journey.
I have started making it my mission to bring a smile to those who dont have one. I find that when I go in the store now and I see someone who looks stressed and is not smiling..I give them my smile. I make eye contact with them and I smile from my heart sending love and positive energy to that person… and guess what they smile.
It works so much better than saying “SMILE”.
Thank you for reading my blog. Now go out and smile, so you can give it away 🙂